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Making Space for Women in the Workplace

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It’s been a long time since women entered the workplace. As of 2015, women’s employment rate in Canada was 69%, compared with 47% in 1973, back in Interval House’s early days. And over the years, women have broken into more and more sectors. Just a few generations ago, women’s career options were pretty limited to childcare, teaching and secretarial work. Now, there are women in all major sectors and every day we hear of the new heights career women are reaching.

Still, there are strides to be made for women in the workplace. The #MeToo movement that gained momentum last fall and continues to dominate headlines a year later really drew attention to the fact women still face harassment and mistreatment in the workplace. And Canadian women still only earn 74 cents on every dollar earned by a man.

It is not enough to simply have women in the workplace. We need to go further to ensure women are also safe and valued at work. This should be addressed at a governmental level to ensure there is equity across the board. But there are things individuals can do — particularly men — to make space for women in the workplace. Here are five ideas to get you started:

 

Stop interrupting women

In the summer of 2017, a few publications ran stories that confirmed what every woman already knew to be true — men interrupt women at alarming rates. A study out of George Washington University highlighted that when men speak with women, they interrupt 33 percent more often than when they speak with other men. In a three minute conversation, women would interrupt only once on average, while men interrupted women 2.1 times. To contrast, men only interrupted other men 1.8 times in the same span of time.

Setting gender aside for a moment, I think we can all agree that being interrupted is annoying. It can disrupt a good thought process and can make one feel minimized. It’s generally good practice to let others finish before you speak. When discussing things with colleagues, be mindful of your listening skills and hold back if you feel the urge to interject. Keeping a notebook on hand to jot down thoughts as they arise is a good practice to ensure you remember them when it’s your turn to speak.

If you often feel the urge to jump in when women are speaking, unpack why you might think your comments are more important. Active listening is an essential skill that can make the women in your life feel heard and respected.

 

Give women credit

Another study that came out in 2017 demonstrated that women get less credit in the workplace than men. The University of Delaware study showed that when men spoke up in group settings, they were perceived as leaders. When women spoke up, they were not perceived as leaders any more than women who remained quiet. The study also found that men are given more credit than women when they say the exact same things. This is a bias towards viewing men as leaders and women as followers at work.

Now that you’ve made a conscious effort to stop interrupting women and to start listening, try paying attention to who is bringing up new ideas. If you notice Bob getting credit for something Anne said just a few moments ago, say something and give Anne credit for it. Commend the women you work with for bringing innovative ideas and thought-provoking comments to the table just as much as you do with the men at work. It takes actions like these to shift the culture in a work environment. The results of giving credit where credit is due will have far-reaching impacts on women’s wellbeing in a workplace.

 

Recognize women on significant dates

There are many special days to commemorate women and the strides they’ve made in the movement towards equality. For so many women who are still actively fighting to get ever-closer to a day when there is true gender equity, these special days can be reassuring that the efforts are paying off. Whether it’s International Women’s Day, Mother’s Day, the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women, or any other special days marking women’s achievements, it’s a great idea to show the women you work with that you stand with them in celebrating these important dates and the achievements of women through history. Knowing they are surrounded by true allies goes a long way towards making women feel safe and appreciated at work.

 

Be respectful with compliments

A few months ago, I saw a post online that offered a good rule for paying compliments. It suggested that one should only comment on things a person can control. For example, rather than commenting on a woman’s figure, comment on her unique sense of style.

Commenting on a woman’s appearance can definitely come across as objectifying. Avoiding appearance-based compliments altogether is a good way to ensure you won’t cross any boundaries and make women uncomfortable. If you appreciate your colleague and want to let her know, here are a few great compliment suggestions that have nothing to do with physical appearance: you always have such great ideas, you come across as very confident to me and I really admire that, I’m inspired by your work ethic, you make people feel very comfortable, I appreciate the energy you bring to work with you every day.

Don’t be shy about commending your colleagues and letting them know they’re appreciated, just make sure you’re being appropriate. After all, receiving a compliment is supposed to feel good.

 

Create woman-friendly policies

Gender equity in the workplace is about creating work environments that allow men and women to equally thrive. An equitable workplace will have policies in place that take women’s needs into account. Last week, we posted a story about how workplaces should have domestic violence policies in place to protect survivors of abuse and allow them to maintain their employment. This is just one example of how companies can instate policies to create more woman-friendly environments. Employers can also have guidelines in place that allow parents of young children flexible work hours to accommodate childcare, and additional personal days for menstruating people.

If you are an employer, review your policies and consider whether they are in step with the goal of creating a more equitable environment for women. Are you a man in the workplace? Be bold and ask about these policies. When men demonstrate that gender equity is important to them, it makes a difference. As we’ve already seen in this article, men are noticed more when they speak up. Why not use that privilege to further the gender equity agenda in your workplace?

The Role Employers Have in Supporting Abuse Survivors

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Gone are the days when family violence was largely regarded as a private matter to be kept behind closed doors. And thank goodness for that. People generally understand now that it is essential to support people in leaving their abusers. This is the first and most important step in breaking the cycle of violence, which has far-reaching impacts on the community at large. There are plenty of articles and conversations about the signs of abuse, what to do if you suspect a friend or loved on is being abused, and what healthy relationships look like. But escaping abuse is only one small piece of the very big puzzle of life one must put back together after a toxic relationship.

Did you know that while many abuse survivors don’t have jobs due to financial abuse, many others are forced to leave their jobs when they get out of abusive relationships? If an abuser knows where a survivor works, it can be dangerous for that survivor to remain employed there. We saw the tragic reality of this recently, when Dr. Tamara O’Neal was shot and killed by her ex after breaking off their engagement. Her death sent shock waves through her community in Chicago and across North America. It highlighted the fear and stress so many abuse survivors live with every day.  It also got people talking about the important role employers have in protecting abuse survivors and the people around them.

Women shouldn’t have to leave their jobs and all facets of their lives behind because of abuse. Companies can help alleviate that pressure by putting in place strong policies to support employees experiencing domestic violence. These policies can help employees feel safe to come forward about abuse, protect the survivor and their colleagues, and support survivors in accessing resources and emotional support.

A good domestic violence policy should include the following: training for all staff about the signs of domestic violence; emotional supports in place for workers, such as an employee assistance program; a commitment to keeping a survivor employed while prioritizing their safety; flexibility around work hours to allow a survivor to alter their schedule from what their abuser was familiar with; paid leave for domestic abuse survivors; and a safety plan template with resources for people experiencing abuse. Western Centre for Research and Education on Violence Against Women and Children has compiled a handy list of employer tips for dealing with domestic violence as well as a guide to help employers develop a domestic violence policy. These are incredible tools made available to the public.

One in five women experience intimate partner violence. This is a significant portion of the workforce. It just makes sense to have supports in place to keep survivors and the people around them safe. We need to prevent women from being fired or forced to quit their jobs because they are being abused. We encounter far too many women here at Interval House who wind up jobless because their employers are unprepared to face the impact domestic violence can have on their workers and workplace. Even though we’ve moved past thinking family violence should stay behind closed doors, we still have to catch up when it comes to developing employment standards that help rather than further victimize survivors. It’s unacceptable that when a woman finally leaves abuse behind, a moment that should be so freeing can often be very limiting. Without a home or job, life is a struggle. Add to that struggle the immense work of healing from trauma at the hands of the most trusted person in one’s life and the barriers to achieving self-sufficiency can seem insurmountable.

Not wanting to see women victimized and then left behind, the employer partners that are connected with the Building Economic Self-Sufficiency Program (BESS) are true leaders in the campaign to end violence against women. They hire BESS clients, fully aware of their experiences of abuse, prepared to support them as they regain their financial independence. These employers demonstrate how taking a chance on someone who has overcome trauma can be so rewarding for both the employee and the employer. Women who have been through so much finally have powerful advocates in their employers and they are able to focus on something other than mere survival. They finally have their autonomy and are empowered to take pride in their work and their lives. When people feel valued, they work hard and give back. The BESS employer partners recognize this and are highly satisfied with their partnership with Interval House.

Provinces also have a role to play in supporting survivors in the workplace. Saskatchewan recently legislated 10 days of protected leave for workers experiencing domestic violence. A move like this really helps destigmatize abuse survivors by acknowledging their unique needs and promoting the importance of protecting them. Having this leave time can allow survivors to move away from their abusers, attend court dates, and take some personal time to heal after abuse. When the government steps up and prioritizes personal days for people escaping violence, it sends the message to employers that the ethical thing to do is grant leave in these extreme circumstances. It is not special treatment but a necessary provision for those who have endured unspeakable violence at the hands of a loved one.

Abuse can happen to anyone. It can have devastating effects on a person’s wellbeing and independence. The more we can reduce barriers, the less survivors will have to suffer through their healing. Now that friends and loved ones have stepped up to play an important role in ending abuse, it’s vital that we face the new frontier—the workplace. Employers have a responsibility to recognize the critical role they play in keeping their employees safe. Helping survivors benefits the whole community and brings us closer and closer to ending the cycle of violence, for good.

Affordable Housing, Childcare & the Eradication of Poverty

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“The achievement of a world free from poverty provides a path towards the achievement of peaceful and inclusive societies…” (United Nations, Concept Note)

Today, October 17th, is the International Day for the Eradication of Poverty. Here at Interval House, we see survivors come from all walks of life with hopes of a future for themselves and their children that is not dictated and threatened by their abusers. Intimate partner violence doesn’t discriminate; it can affect people from diverse socio-economic backgrounds. However, in the campaign to end intimate partner violence, and violence against women, we cannot ignore the increased barriers that women, non-binary and transgender survivors of colour who are living in poverty face as they attempt to rebuild their lives and break the cycle of abuse. For intimate partner violence to be eradicated, we must address systemic poverty and a lack of accessible social services.

Municipal, provincial, and federal poverty strategies must be developed with input from the affected communities to address the specific needs of vulnerable sections of the population, such as Indigenous peoples, racialized communities, and survivors of intimate partner violence. In the Interval House Barriers Report our team researched and identified the barriers to employment and employability that abuse survivors can face. Two of the most significant barriers to economic stability and comfort are access to affordable housing and childcare.

These two barriers in particular can obstruct a survivor’s ability to gain and maintain secure employment and can perpetuate poverty for the whole family. At Interval House, our goal is to support our clients in overcoming their experiences with abuse and becoming empowered and self-sufficient in their futures. For a survivor living in poverty who lacks the means to keep a roof over her head or food on her children’s plates, remaining in, or going back to, an abusive relationship may feel like the only option. In that way, poverty can exacerbate the disparity of control and power that is fundamental to abusive relationships. This reality underscores the fact that access to subsidized housing and childcare can not only help bring a family out of poverty, it can also help end the cycle of abuse.

Right now, the average cost of a one bedroom rental in Toronto is a staggering $2,220. In December 2017, the median cost for infant care in Toronto was $1,758 a month. For many women who have bravely fled abusive relationships, this price tag is an impenetrable barrier keeping them below the poverty line and dependent on a social assistance program that itself is criticized for making it very difficult for people to become self-sufficient. A national affordable housing strategy that names housing as a human right and an affordable childcare strategy are the most effective ways the government can act to lessen the pressure on vulnerable individuals and populations. These supports could empower those who have lived through severe trauma to regain their independence and rebuild their lives.

It’s so important to acknowledge the connection between poverty and intergenerational family violence. By advocating for poverty reduction strategies and investing in social programs, we can foster peaceful societies, and communities where vulnerable populations are supported and the cycle of abuse is broken.

Spotlight on Self-Care for World Mental Health Day

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Over the past few weeks, the news has been particularly triggering and re-traumatizing for anyone who has experienced sexual or intimate partner violence. Healing from trauma is not linear and it can feel regressive for survivors when details of violence in the news cycle transport them back to their own difficult experiences with abuse.

Complex post-traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, depression, substance use disorders, and eating disorders are just some of the mental health challenges that may result from abuse and sexual assault. A triggering event can bring a sudden onslaught of symptoms, even after a survivor has gone months or years feeling stable and grounded. It’s a difficult and frustrating experience that may call for professional counselling and sometimes even medical attention.

Regular self-care can help survivors manage and maintain their psychological wellness to lessen the effects of triggering events such as difficult world news or witnessing violence. It’s a good idea to take a little bit of time each day to do something for yourself, to maintain a grounded, present state of mind, or to hedge an oncoming bout of anxiety.

Self-care is an important part of mental healthcare. For World Mental Health Day, let’s focus on 5 self-care practices that can easily be incorporated into a daily routine.

1) Gratitude Journal

When life seems full of darkness and you start to lose track of what’s good in the world, a gratitude journal can help you refocus on the positive things in life. Not every day is a good day, but there is good in every day. Take a moment each day to jot down a few things you are grateful for. It can be as simple as how nice it feels to hold a warm cup of coffee in the morning or the way your houseplants bring a pop of colour into your life.

Having a gratitude practice is proven to benefit you both physically and mentally. Focusing on what you’re thankful for can lift your spirits and motivate you. You only need a couple of minutes each day to have a gratitude practice.

2) Gentle Movement

Everyone knows that regular exercise is good for the body and mind. But sometimes, strenuous exercise can exacerbate an anxious state of mind by bringing up your heart rate and tricking your body into thinking there is danger present. If you are prone to anxiety or panic attacks, try introducing a gentle form of exercise such as yoga, tai chi, or leisurely walking into your daily routine. Gentle exercise still does wonders for your body while also keeping your heart rate at a manageable level. It promotes rhythmic breathing that can calm anxiety symptoms.

It’s easier to maintain regular exercise when you have a routine, so try to choose a time each day to exercise. Maybe before or after work is good for you, or during your lunch hour. You might just find it boosts your energy for the rest of the day.

3) Mindfulness/Meditation Practice

The human brain processes more information each day now than ever before. With so much going on in the world and a 24-hour news cycle, the brain seldom gets the rest it needs. You may find yourself constantly thinking about what you heard on the news or what there is to be done and that may be keeping you from living in the moment. What’s also interesting is that silence is actually very important for the brain. It gives the mind a chance to process information and decompress tension.

A meditation and mindfulness practice can help you incorporate more silence into your life and be more present in the moment. You may choose to meditate in a seated position with your eyes closed or to instead do active meditation, like walking mindfully. Find what works best for you. If you’re new to this practice, there are many free apps that can teach you the basics and help you establish a routine. Headspace and Insight Timer are two popular ones you can download to your device and access daily.

When it comes to mindfulness, the more time you take for it, the better. Still, one minute is better than none.

4) Talk to a Friend

Human connection can’t be underestimated. Sometimes in the hustle of daily life, it can feel like you have to do it all on your own. But you’re not alone. Taking a few moments each day to check in with a friend can be a great way to remember that you are connected and supported. Whether you talk on the phone, meet up for coffee or a meal, or just have a conversation over email or text, talking to a friend is a great way to lift your spirits, calm your mind, and keep you rooted.

5) Go Offline

If the news and noise are keeping you up at night, maybe it’s time to disengage for a while. The news will still be there when you want or need it but being constantly informed can be stressful and distracting. You may not have the luxury of disengaging from social media and the news for long stints of time but there are still ways to cut back and give your brain a break. Try limiting your screen time after work hours or not using social media at certain times like on the weekends. There are a number of apps out there that can assist you in going offline.  Doing this might also help you find time for other self-care activities, leaving you refreshed and re-calibrated.

These are just a few of the things you may want to try to do daily for your own peace of mind. Find what works for you in the right balance and make a habit of it and before you know it, a daily self-care routine will be second nature for you. In a busy world, it’s so important to remember to put yourself first so that you have the energy and mental capacity to be there for everything and everyone else that demands your attention. When you do what you can to build yourself up, you are so much more resilient in the face of life’s challenges.

If you are having a mental health crisis, please seek professional help.

Interval House Crisis Line: 1-888-293-5516
Assaulted Women’s Helpline: 1-866-863-0511
Distress Centres of Toronto: 416-408-4357

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Her Home Housing Project

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Across Ontario, women who have experienced abuse are finding it increasingly difficult to access safe, affordable housing.  In 2004, Interval House launched a ground-breaking partnership with private-sector landlords whereby housing units were offered to women survivors of intimate partner violence at rent-geared-to-income rates for up to two years. Interval House thanks its founders and participants, past and present.

 

 

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Let’s celebrate summer!

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It’s summer time! Here are two creative, kid-friendly recipes to celebrate the magic of summer.

Old Fashioned Lemonade with Freshly Squeezed Lemons

Time to make: 15 mins
Yield: 8 cups

Ingredients

  • 5 lbs. lemons
  • 2 cups water
  • 2 cups sugar

Instructions

  1. Cut lemons in half. Juice each lemon through a strainer into a large measuring cup. Keep juicing until you have 2 cups of lemon juice.
  2. Pour water into a medium-size saucepan over medium-high heat. Stir in sugar. Continue cooking over heat until sugar is dissolved and liquid looks clear again.
  3. Combine sugar solution with lemon juice. This is a lemonade concentrate. When ready to serve, add water to taste.

Mud Pudding with Worms

Time to make: 1hr
Yield: 10 servings

Add some freezing time to this recipe for a colder version.

Ingredients

  • 1 pkg. (3.9 oz.) JELL-O Chocolate Flavour Instant Pudding
  • 2 cups cold milk
  • 1 tub COOL WHIP Whipped Topping, thawed
  • 15 OREO Cookies, finely crushed (about 1-1/4 cups), divided
  • 10 worm-shaped chewy fruit snacks

Instructions

  1. Beat pudding mix and milk in large bowl with whisk 2 min. Let stand 5 min. Stir in COOL WHIP and 1/2 cup cookie crumbs.
  2. Spoon into 10 (6- to 7-oz.) cups; top with remaining cookie crumbs.
  3. Refrigerate 1 hour. Top with fruit snacks just before serving.

The Young brothers honour their mother

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Michael Young (Right), founder of Quadrant Capital Partners, and his brother, David Young (Left), playwright and novelist, were co-chairs for Interval House’s Capital Campaign, which raised $5,000,000 in 2004. Interval House was able to buy, rebuild and equip the facility that now houses BESS and the shelter. They dedicate their work on the campaign to their mother’s memory. Toto Young, featured in the portrait in the shelter’s dining area, was an orphan who lived through difficult times. Her story and memory continue to inspire the brothers to support Interval House.

Peace of mind for our pet owners

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We’re excited to announce the SafePet Program, in partnership with Link Toronto and the Ontario Veterinary Medical Association’s SafePet Network. This new offering will provide peace of mind to women and children at Interval House.

We know that a woman is less likely to leave an abuser if it means leaving her beloved pet behind.  We have long wanted to remove that barrier to leaving a life of violence and now we have a program that confidentially places the pets of women staying at the shelter in trusted foster homes. The SafePet Program has trained people within partner vet clinics to organize a safe and confidential way for women to deliver their pets to the vet clinic. From there, the SafePet Program places the pets in dependable foster homes until their owners are ready to move into private housing. Women and children can know their loved, furry friends are safe and spend their time at the shelter focusing on their own healing journeys.

Women can access the SafePet program through Interval House’s standard admission and assessment process.

Gillian Stewart: an inspirational donor

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Gillian Stewart is a compassionate and inspiring donor who gives out of a love for the women and children starting their lives over at Interval House.

Gillian describes her own childhood as very unusual. She knew both her parents, but was raised by her grandmother. She rarely saw her father, and her mother tragically took her own life when Gillian was just 12 years old. Gillian knows grief and confusion.

“If life deals you bad cards,” she says, “you can go negative and resentful, and never want to do something nice because people haven’t been nice to you. Or you can go the other way: you have to keep on being alive in your heart, in your soul, to know that good things must come to people.”

Gillian cares deeply about the women and children at Interval House. To show her support, she started out giving small amounts a few times a year, whatever she could manage. Last year, she decided to become a monthly donor, so the families at Interval House could count on her regular, ongoing support.

Gillian summarizes the vision and heart of Interval House in one wise statement: “When a woman walks through your doors, those first steps back to self-respect are the footprints paving the way for the future that lies ahead.”

Donors like Gillian make it possible for us to help women rediscover their dignity and self-confidence as they work toward a better future for themselves and their children. We’re so grateful to Gillian and all donors who give so generously.

Helping kids be kids

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Fred Shayo-Mushi has an incredible job: he teaches kids to play and laugh again.

Fred co-facilitates the Children’s Group at Interval House. In deliberate and subtle ways, Fred uses play-based counselling with the children living here with their moms. His creative approach helps them express what they’ve experienced and what brought them to Interval House.

Fred is a fun-loving support for these kids. His sense of humour and ease make them feel safe and free to have fun.

“Through the activities, through play and interactions, you start to see a little bit of the kid coming out,” Fred says.

Fred also models positive relationships between differently gendered people, something many of the kids at Interval House have little experience with. He does this by working cooperatively with his co-facilitator in groups and by demonstrating respectful interactions with the mothers of the kids he works with. He also helps kids practice empathy by helping them care for the pet fish in the Children’s Program room.

Fred takes the children on all kinds of adventures. They explore local parks and trails, visit zoos and farms, and in the winter they go skating. “I’m not a good skater,” Fred admits, “so I provide a lot of humour.”

On the weekends, the mothers join the fun. Fred helps them build confidence and re-establish their relationships with their children. He helps them feel self-assured in their new lives. “Often it is the simplest thing, like how to use the subway system. It’s about giving people freedom to explore and spend quality time outside together.”

Fred is an invaluable support for children and their mothers as they transform their lives and break the cycle of violence.

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